Motherly Love's Guide to Amp Your Inner Peace for An Awesome Holiday Season!

If you were to ask yourself what factors could help make your holiday season feel more aligned for you, what would they be?  

An easy pitfall of the season is the obligatory expectation of holiday joy that can feel less than authentic when we go the through the motions of festive ‘to-dos’ without first aligning our internal holiday spirit, if you will.  Too often seasonal expectations of how we should feel don’t match our realities zapping our mood and energy levels, challenging our ability to find our peace (in a season, ironically, all about peace and love). At this still early stage in the hopeful climb towards peak holiday fulfillment, now may be a perfect time to set an intention for yourself that keeps what you cherish most alive and accessible.  Think of it as self-care holiday goal-setting.   Personally meaningful experiences that warm your heart and bond your village will also nourish your health and happiness and deserve to be at the top of your priority list.
To amp up inner peace during the holidays, try setting aside 5 minutes (ideally before starting your day) to get quiet and go inwards…set a timer if that helps you commit!  These 5 minutes can create an opportunity to gain greater clarity with how you are feeling and how you might prefer to feel, what types of traditions you would like to invest your energy in-  and how to be additive in spreading true warmth and glow to your own celebrating, as well as to your community.  As we amp up our intention, we increase our chances of better holiday outcomes and memories. 
Some creative questions to ask yourself to get the 'snow'ball rolling...                                          what holds the greatest meaning for you during the holidays?

  •  Is it the gathering of friends? Of family? Of community? 
  •  The sharing of time and the exchange of love and laughter?
  •  Contributing to the betterment of those in great need in your life, whether close family member or friend, or those in great need in the wider world?
  • The cherished meaning of a familiar tradition that may require some updating to enhance its resonance?
  • Creating a brand new tradition to address what might feel missing in your holiday experience?
  •  Respecting your own need for more time for personal reflection and restful downtime?
  •  Taking time to be grateful and express gratitude for everything positive happening in your life?
  •  Honoring the beloved memories of those no longer present in person but whom are so crucially loved and cherished in you and your families’ lives? 

Pick what feels most alive for you when you picture your holiday being truly awesome!  Honoring who you are and what you can contribute will add greater meaning and deeper connection to your holiday celebrating.  Once you feel clear about what’s most important to you, use your 5 minutes a day to to breath deeply into the creative ways you can integrate these meaningful experiences into your holidays.  Use your 5 minutes to engage your ideas and make your plans.  And, when ready, use your 5 minutes to take simple actions and create your holiday visions.

 The holiday season can be a powerful invitation to deepen our inner peace and connection to ourselves while we spread more collective peace in a world that could really use it!  Amp it up! 

Motherly Love's Top 5 Guide for Pregnancy Self-Care!

1) Love yourself! (You saw this one coming). When you wake up in the morning and remember, hey, that’s right- I’m pregnant and sooo many things are different, and maybe I have to move waaayy slower to get out of bed or my hip feels really achy or I have 12 more weeks of this??? Please remind yourself what an amazing job you are doing! You are working 24/7 growing a brand new human being. You can never be as efficiently productive in life as this, even while sleeping!! Give yourself the full appreciation you deserve for the hard work and acknowledge the amazing, healthy, extraordinary goddess that you are!

2) Nourishment. Literally, good food and good water. Be sure to give yourself good quality energy so that the cells in your body feel taken care of and say thank you!

3) Rest. Especially around 30 weeks + it can be harder to get the normal stretch of sleep. Know that scheduling in extra times for catnapping and taking it easy (legs up helps with swelling too) gives our body the breaks it needs to restore energy.

For Motherly Love’s NYC clientele, this can be a super hard one. It can be frustrating to feel more tired or have to slow things down a bit, but thinking about it as building strength and energy through respecting the power of rest can help!

This is where your support team can come in to help you most. Schedule regular relaxation and energy bolstering massage and acupuncture appointments. Or get your village to help you by watching this tutorial on safe pregnancy massage at home!

4) Nesting. This is self-care brought to a practical and visual level. Getting organized now before the baby comes is taking care of your future self and family. It will be easier to rest later having channeled some of those powerful nesting surges into de-cluttering or simply organizing your old stuff and integrating the new baby stuff.

Nesting can also be taking time to daydream positive visions of how awesome your birth will be and how you might get creative with calling in extra support for when the baby arrives!

5) Bond with your village. Self-care in pregnancy is all about bonding. Bonding with yourself and your baby (see #1-4) is super empowering. So is bonding with your village. Your village is definitely your loved ones. Prioritize quality bonding time with your partner! Reach out to friends and family who would love to find a way to support and help you. This is an ideal time to find a new support group of pregnant peers going through the same types of things you are going through. This can be found in a pregnancy yoga group class, or even a childbirth education class. Getting together with other pregnant women can help build new friendships and networks of support that can nourish us well into the newborn stage which can sometimes feel isolating.

Remember: While all this growth is happening on a physical level, it's also happening on other levels. You are experiencing a rite of passage to parenthood (first time or expanding your crew). This is an opportunity to tap into your fullest potential to create your best self and your best world - and Motherly Love supports you!!